SHOW NOTES: On today’s episode of The SHAIR Podcast we have Jeff Shane joining us. Jeff now 4 ½ years clean takes us through 4 decades of sex, drugs and rock and roll. His adventure starts out in 1966 experimenting with all kinds of drugs like mescaline, peyote and marijuana. All through high school and college Jeff was partying like a rock star. After college he bounced around from job to job until he got hired in the mail room at CBS records and worked his way up to Vice President of Rock Promotions at Capitol Records handling artists like Bog Segar, Paul McCartney, Queen and the Doobie Brothers.
After 9 years at Capitol records and consuming massive amounts of drugs with all the rock stars he was promoting, he leaves Capitol to start his own company. Shortly thereafter he gets into a car accident and hurts his back. This is where Jeff’s addiction goes into full gear, popping Vicodin all day like they were jelly beans, somas with codeine, tons of weed and lots and lots of cocaine. Jeff finally hits rock bottom and his journey into recovery begins.
Today Jeff is retired and spends every day doing service and helping others, volunteering at hospitals, the Salvation Army, the boys and girls clubs, as well as teaching kindergarten at his granddaughter’s school. He’s an amazing grandfather and responsible productive member of society. It’s an amazing story of hope and an incredible journey of recovery, join us now!
Clean Date: March 27, 2001
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Today we have a special guest joining us Jeff Shane. Jeff started in the mail room at CBS records and ultimately worked his way up to Vice President at Capital Records as a rock promoter.
Jeff, tell us about how your life is today, give us a run down of what you do on a regular basis, your daily routine, including recovery.
Jeff: You know, I get up at 5 o’clock in the morning. I go to a 7:30 meeting almost every day except for Saturday when I go to a men’s meeting at 8 o’clock. So after my meeting I work with my clients. I have clients that have disabilities. I have one person who lives independently that has autism and the other has cerebral palsy. I go to school. I’m getting a Drug and Alcohol Counseling degree. I go to the jails, the hospital Five East, which is the psychiatric detox and the Salvation Army. I work at the Boys and Girls Club. I volunteer at my grandkids school where I teach kindergarten. This is my fourth year and I teach fourth grade.
We do books, we read books and do book reports. I also work at the Boys and Girls Club and I’m looking to get interested in educating parents, not only the kids. Everything happens at such a young age, but I’m noticing through education, which is probably the only thing that’s ever going to teach people about drug and alcohol addiction, that we also need to educate the parents because the parents don’t know what’s going on. The parents have never come across the situation of a 12 or 13 year old child using drugs and alcohol so we’re concentrating so much on the child we forget that the parent is really basically ignorant to this whole situation.
So Jeff, what was keeping you from getting clean or staying clean when you first got introduced to recovery?
At what point did you have a spiritual awakening, that ‘aha’ moment in recovery when you accepted that you were powerless over drugs and alcohol, but for the first time had developed the hope that you could recover?
Jeff: I don’t know if there was really one moment. I was in my first year and towards the end, I kept hearing when you’re done, you’re done and when you’re not, you’re not. I suddenly started to realize that it was strictly in my hands. I can’t get anybody sober, but in our organization we can help someone stay sober so I knew in my spiritual awakening it was up to me to decide if I was really honestly committed to this for the rest of my life. That’s when I first became spiritually aware that I had in my hands the ability to make this work.
Do you have a favorite book that you would recommend to a newcomer that you read in early recovery?
The Greatest Miracle in the World – Og Mandino
Jeff: I got the book in recovery. It’s a 100 page paper back book. It’s called “The Greatest Miracle in the World” by Og Mandino.
What is the best suggestion you have ever received?
Jeff: When I went to recovery, they called it toothbrush therapy. Reach out to another alcoholic every day, go to a meeting and be consistent with your program. For me, I read one day at a time, just for today and a Buddhist book. I read the prayer of St. Francis, the 3rd step prayer, the 7th step prayer, Thank You for Giving Me, Taking Me and Leaving Me. I read the acceptance prayer. I say the Serenity Prayer and then I have some sayings like “the best things in life aren’t things”, “be positive”, “anger is the reaction to the present. Fear is the response to the future. Resentment is reliving the past”. I made these on index cards and “love unconditionally”. I took out of this chapter, let me see if I have it, I also read it “count your blessings, proclaim your rarity, go another mile, use wisely your power of choice and do all things with love”.
That came out of a chapter in Mandino and I do these things every morning. I come down and I journal my feelings. In other words, acceptance, accepted, anger, appreciated, bless, caring, consistent, considerate, faith, envy, courage, grateful, gratitude, hope, humble, pain, pleasure, patience, sad, safe, successful, spiritual, satisfied, thankful, thoughtful, trust and truthful, tired. I identify feelings that I hope to experience during the course of the day and then I write a gratitude list. Then you write a letter to God in the afternoon or evening before I go to sleep. I state over the feelings I thought during the day. I finish my gratitude list and do a recap of my day with a letter to God on what’s going on, what I felt, where I’m at now and I do that every day. I’ve done that every day since recovery. So to me, it’s a program of consistency. It’s a program of honesty. It’s a program of repetition because we never learn anything without repetition. That’s why we reread the same book and the same stuff. That’s what I do every day and another book I would recommend from the place in Minnesota. What’s the big place in Minnesota that’s been there forever? One day at a time is their own book.
So again I’m a morning person. I do a lot of stuff in the morning and I do wrap up in the evening and that keeps me connected. I try to meditate in the morning or meditate at the meeting and I do a bit of breathing at night and I do a lot of reading. I read books to get away. I don’t read books for knowledge or something like that. I read books to enjoy them and that’s what I do. That’s how I go to sleep now. I don’t have to medicate myself to go to sleep anymore.
O: No none of us do and I remember when I was early in recovery and for whatever reason once I was done, I was done. I was terrified of drugs when I came into Narcotics Anonymous. That’s where I got clean initially and I was terrified of drugs so I wouldn’t take anything once I made the commitment to stop and I remember guys used to come in and go “man, you know I can’t sleep”. They used to whine about it and I remember the old timers would say “well then stay awake” and they would look at the guy with like bewilderness and go “what do you mean”. Well if you can’t sleep, then just stay awake. Eventually your body will shut down.
Jeff: That’s a great piece of information. So you just keep going until your body says I’m not staying awake anymore.
O: It’s funny. It was the most remedial thing I’ve ever heard, but it made so much sense. I’m like “yeah, eventually you’re just not going to be able to stay awake”. So Jeff, if you would give a newcomer only one suggestion, what would it be?
SUGGESTION’S FOR THE NEWCOMER!
“Be honest with yourself”
Jeff: That’s tough. Be honest with yourself. You can’t be honest with others unless you get honest with yourself first. You can’t help others until you help yourself.
What is your favorite meeting that you attend and where is that group located?
Jeff: My favorite meeting is in Montecito, California, which is Santa Barbara and I attend it in the mornings at 7:30. It’s seven days a week. I love the fact that you can go to the same meeting seven days a week. I like the consistency. I like the repetition and I like the recovery in this room because nobody whines. Everybody talks about recovery and what’s important.
Eighty-three – Eighty-seven Group
All Saints By-The-Sea Episcopal Church – Friendship Hall
83 Eucalyptus Ln.
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