We all go through tough times. But why is it so hard for many of us to ask for help during these times? Asking for help is the cornerstone of sobriety, though, it’s one of the biggest barriers that prevent us from getting sober and living out our true potential.
Asking for help requires us to be vulnerable and in doing so we ultimately put ourselves at risk for disappointment, rejection, and it can cause us to feel weak or vulnerable. Others may lack the social skills to ask for help, and some don’t know where to turn.
Though, when we begin to ask ourselves where this fear of becoming vulnerable stems from, most of us can return back to a place in childhood.
Asking For Help
In this week’s SHAIR Recovery Coaching call, the group helped Pauly. Making significant career changes in his life, he finds himself struggling to ask for help. Through the years, he’s attracted those that take advantage of him and craves significance by those that continue to drain him. Stemming from an incident in childhood, Pauly recounts the very first time he sought approval from those that may not be good influences on him and recognizes patterns that got him where he is today.
The group also helped Gary. Feeling stressed and overwhelmed by his wife’s cancer diagnosis, the “grin-and-bear-it” culture of pretending that everything is okay is not working for him anymore. He must lean on the group to find emotional support and learn how to feel deserving to care for himself.
In this SHAIR Recovery Coaching call, you’ll learn:
- Why asking for help is so difficult
- How to recognize people in our lives that may not be contributing to our success
- How to begin to feel deserving of self-care
- Factors that go into feeling fulfilled by putting trust in others
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