I started using alcohol at age 15 and it felt like the perfect solution to my childhood trauma and dysfunctional home life. My values changed almost immediately, and I went from having LDS background to the other end of the spectrum. I got a DUI when I was 16 and many underage alcohol misdemeanors. I was kicked out of high school and was ashamed that I had a GED and not a high school diploma. I was pregnant at age 18 and was able to stop drinking but started again shortly after my daughter was born. I didn’t have any more legal consequences after that first DUI, mostly because of luck. My biggest consequence from drinking was that it stunted my growth as a human being.
My recovery from alcohol has really been about recovering from the reasons why I drank, which I can address now that I am not drinking. My threshold for being unhappy was fairly low, in comparison to others’ stories. This is not to undermine or deny what I went through. I had withdrawal symptoms from alcohol, shitty relationships, and no sense of self. When people in AA say, “If I drink, I will die,” I don’t entirely relate. If I drink, I may die eventually and my disease will continue to progress, but more likely, I will be miserable in my existence. I won’t achieve my purpose, be connected to a higher power, or have fulfilling relationships. I have learned that my addiction to alcohol is a symptom of trauma, and drinking was merely a coping skill. Alcohol worked very well to numb my pain and it helped me disassociate. I didn’t even know I was disassociating until I started my recovery journey. It becomes more and more apparent that I didn’t know how to cope with my feelings or know how to be comfortable in my skin.
My personal work and successes have been on self-forgiveness and love, forgiving others, learning healthy boundaries, and being the best mother possible. I am in recovery from alcohol and co-dependency. I am learning how to feel my feelings, cope with life, and stand up for myself and my worth. I live in Idaho, and I am a single mom to 3 amazing, beautiful daughters. I am so proud of myself for breaking the intergenerational patterns in my family.
My curiosity about sobriety started about 3 years ago. I started listening to podcasts in the beginning of my recovery and found The SHAIR Podcast with Omar Pinto. I loved his voice and his energy. I have found his interviews to have a profound impact on my ability to see my addiction as an opportunity and not a dirty secret. I eventually became a member of his FB group and then joined the SRC where I have connected with so many amazing people in recovery. I feel the SRC group has kept me sober.
I can access meetings via Zoom which has been crucial to me since I am at home with my kids and haven’t found an AA group in my community where I feel connected. The connection with others in the group has saved me from loneliness and isolation. I have found a sponsor in one of these groups who was willing to complete the 12 steps with me which has been transformational! I am almost 5 months in my recovery from alcohol and 95% of the time, I don’t even think about drinking. I am so grateful for the SRC, the SHAIR podcast, my sponsor, the step work, and online recovery.
How can spouses deal with a partner who is in active addiction?
How can they keep their family intact when everything begins to fall apart?
What does a parent do when children are involved?
Today’s story is about the other side of addiction. Liza Morales is a real estate professional, a mom, and the ex-wife of NBA star, Lamar Odom. Their problems began after moving to Los Angeles, where Lamar was swept away by the celebrity lifestyle and all the vices that come with it.
Liza talks frankly about what it was like to be a young mother married to a famous athlete, what lead to their final break up, and the drug overdose that sent Lamar into a coma.
She also reveals what three keys have given her the strength to carry on, keep her family together, and what her relationship with Lamar Odom is like today.
Liza Morales and Lamar Odom
Liza Morales was born to a Puerto Rican parents in Queens New York City, May 9, 1979. Raised in a broken family, she attended Christ the King High School, in Queens, where she met Lamar in the ninth grade.
The sweethearts got engaged in 2000, leading to Liza moving into Odom’s apartment. The couple would spend the next 10 years together and welcomed three children together.
A look at Odom and Liza’s relationship timeline shows their journey together was filled with many ups and down. Although the NBA athlete didn’t take her to the altar, they were there for each other for over 10 years, after which Lamar met Khloe Kardashian, whom he married for four years until his addiction destroyed the marriage.
Liza’s Life Today
I would probably be diagnosed insane if I didn’t have a higher power that I believed in.
As a young mother, adjusting to life as the wife of a famous athlete was challenging. But Liza came from a divorced family and didn’t want that for her children. She was determined to keep her family together, even when drugs and women came into the picture. She accepted it as part of the lifestyle and figured the thrill of it would wear off and Lamar would settle down eventually.
But things escalated as he rose higher and higher in his career. What remained of their relationship crashed when they had a third child who died of SIDs. Liza turned spiritually inward. Lamar leaned on drugs and distractions.
Reeling from the death of her son and the end of their marriage, Liza discovered therapy. She was diagnosed with depression, which helped her understand what was going on in her mind. Liza also sought out experts, books, videos, and other resources to learn as much about addiction as she could.
Now she, Lamar, and her kids are partnering up with MicDrop to heal their family by telling their story and showing families who are suffering that they are not alone.
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