I started using alcohol at age 15 and it felt like the perfect solution to my childhood trauma and dysfunctional home life. My values changed almost immediately, and I went from having LDS background to the other end of the spectrum. I got a DUI when I was 16 and many underage alcohol misdemeanors. I was kicked out of high school and was ashamed that I had a GED and not a high school diploma. I was pregnant at age 18 and was able to stop drinking but started again shortly after my daughter was born. I didn’t have any more legal consequences after that first DUI, mostly because of luck. My biggest consequence from drinking was that it stunted my growth as a human being.
My recovery from alcohol has really been about recovering from the reasons why I drank, which I can address now that I am not drinking. My threshold for being unhappy was fairly low, in comparison to others’ stories. This is not to undermine or deny what I went through. I had withdrawal symptoms from alcohol, shitty relationships, and no sense of self. When people in AA say, “If I drink, I will die,” I don’t entirely relate. If I drink, I may die eventually and my disease will continue to progress, but more likely, I will be miserable in my existence. I won’t achieve my purpose, be connected to a higher power, or have fulfilling relationships. I have learned that my addiction to alcohol is a symptom of trauma, and drinking was merely a coping skill. Alcohol worked very well to numb my pain and it helped me disassociate. I didn’t even know I was disassociating until I started my recovery journey. It becomes more and more apparent that I didn’t know how to cope with my feelings or know how to be comfortable in my skin.
My personal work and successes have been on self-forgiveness and love, forgiving others, learning healthy boundaries, and being the best mother possible. I am in recovery from alcohol and co-dependency. I am learning how to feel my feelings, cope with life, and stand up for myself and my worth. I live in Idaho, and I am a single mom to 3 amazing, beautiful daughters. I am so proud of myself for breaking the intergenerational patterns in my family.
My curiosity about sobriety started about 3 years ago. I started listening to podcasts in the beginning of my recovery and found The SHAIR Podcast with Omar Pinto. I loved his voice and his energy. I have found his interviews to have a profound impact on my ability to see my addiction as an opportunity and not a dirty secret. I eventually became a member of his FB group and then joined the SRC where I have connected with so many amazing people in recovery. I feel the SRC group has kept me sober.
I can access meetings via Zoom which has been crucial to me since I am at home with my kids and haven’t found an AA group in my community where I feel connected. The connection with others in the group has saved me from loneliness and isolation. I have found a sponsor in one of these groups who was willing to complete the 12 steps with me which has been transformational! I am almost 5 months in my recovery from alcohol and 95% of the time, I don’t even think about drinking. I am so grateful for the SRC, the SHAIR podcast, my sponsor, the step work, and online recovery.
Kenyon Zitzka is a life coach and the host of the Zero Xcuses Podcast. He gives zero excuses for not living up to his full potential.
In the past, Kenyon was what society considers successful in many areas of his life, but he still felt completely unfulfilled. He was an ordinary dude looking to live an extraordinary life, and it just wasn’t happening.
Something had to give, something had to change, and in today’s episode we discover the catalysts that compelled him take ownership of his destiny.
He also gives us life hacks for sober living and stoic advice to help us stay accountable, get organized, and take massive action—zero excuses!
Kenyon Zitzka is the founder of Zero Xcuseswhose mission is to help ‘alpha men’ reclaim control over their time, build wealth and forge deep connection with their family by building rock-solid discipline to eliminate ‘xcuses’.
Through his Podcast, blog and other channels he shares the most effective tools, strategies and tactics of those he interviews to help others break free from their limiting beliefs so they can accomplish their ambitious goals and dreams.
Kenyon recently retired from the US Navy Reserve serving as a Master Chief Petty Officer. He served on Active Duty from 1997 to 2007 & 2010-2011; duty stations included USS PAUL HAMILTON (DDG-60), Assault Craft Unit Two & Camp Lemonnier (Djibouti, Africa). In his civilian career, he is currently is serving as the Port Engineer for the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration Ship NANCY FOSTER (R-352).
In his spare time, Kenyon enjoys fitness challenges (GORUCK Challenges, OCRs, etc), auto racing and any outdoor activity. Kenyon currently resides in Charleston, SC with his wife Jaimee and 4.5 year old daughter Piper. He holds a Master of Engineering in Mechanical Engineering from Rochester Institute of Technology.
Too many people are drifting through life hoping that someday their life will be exactly the way they want. Zero Xcuses shows you how to get exactly what you want from life with tools, resources, systems and the mindset you need to create and implement your ultimate vision for your life.
Life Hacks for Sober Living
Do you have a vision for your life?
What’s keeping you from growing?
What small habits of thinking and doing can you implement to make sure you always keep moving forward?
We often get caught up in how we’re going to get to where we want to go in life.
We read the books, make elaborate plans, and drive ourselves crazy wondering how we can make it all happen.
But creating the ultimate vision of your life doesn’t have to be complicated.
Kenyon Zitzka‘s three rules for living are:
- Don’t be a dick.
- Leave everybody and every situation better than you found it.
- Live to your full potential.
On top of that, he suggests asking yourself this question whenever you walk by the mirror:
Is this the standard I’m willing to accept?
What standard are you holding yourself to?
Kenyon Zitzka’s Links
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