I started using alcohol at age 15 and it felt like the perfect solution to my childhood trauma and dysfunctional home life. My values changed almost immediately, and I went from having LDS background to the other end of the spectrum. I got a DUI when I was 16 and many underage alcohol misdemeanors. I was kicked out of high school and was ashamed that I had a GED and not a high school diploma. I was pregnant at age 18 and was able to stop drinking but started again shortly after my daughter was born. I didn’t have any more legal consequences after that first DUI, mostly because of luck. My biggest consequence from drinking was that it stunted my growth as a human being.
My recovery from alcohol has really been about recovering from the reasons why I drank, which I can address now that I am not drinking. My threshold for being unhappy was fairly low, in comparison to others’ stories. This is not to undermine or deny what I went through. I had withdrawal symptoms from alcohol, shitty relationships, and no sense of self. When people in AA say, “If I drink, I will die,” I don’t entirely relate. If I drink, I may die eventually and my disease will continue to progress, but more likely, I will be miserable in my existence. I won’t achieve my purpose, be connected to a higher power, or have fulfilling relationships. I have learned that my addiction to alcohol is a symptom of trauma, and drinking was merely a coping skill. Alcohol worked very well to numb my pain and it helped me disassociate. I didn’t even know I was disassociating until I started my recovery journey. It becomes more and more apparent that I didn’t know how to cope with my feelings or know how to be comfortable in my skin.
My personal work and successes have been on self-forgiveness and love, forgiving others, learning healthy boundaries, and being the best mother possible. I am in recovery from alcohol and co-dependency. I am learning how to feel my feelings, cope with life, and stand up for myself and my worth. I live in Idaho, and I am a single mom to 3 amazing, beautiful daughters. I am so proud of myself for breaking the intergenerational patterns in my family.
My curiosity about sobriety started about 3 years ago. I started listening to podcasts in the beginning of my recovery and found The SHAIR Podcast with Omar Pinto. I loved his voice and his energy. I have found his interviews to have a profound impact on my ability to see my addiction as an opportunity and not a dirty secret. I eventually became a member of his FB group and then joined the SRC where I have connected with so many amazing people in recovery. I feel the SRC group has kept me sober.
I can access meetings via Zoom which has been crucial to me since I am at home with my kids and haven’t found an AA group in my community where I feel connected. The connection with others in the group has saved me from loneliness and isolation. I have found a sponsor in one of these groups who was willing to complete the 12 steps with me which has been transformational! I am almost 5 months in my recovery from alcohol and 95% of the time, I don’t even think about drinking. I am so grateful for the SRC, the SHAIR podcast, my sponsor, the step work, and online recovery.
Shirley Solis is the founder of the Live Life Experience, a 3-day transformative event that gives women the tools to become the empowered, free, and inspiring person they know they can be. Shirley was always a girl with big dreams, but after she got married and had six children, she discovered her husband suffered from a sex addiction.
Shirley spiraled down to a dark place, losing her identity, her self-respect, and her ability to set boundaries. But ultimately, her husband’s problem became a catalyst for change, forcing her to seek tools that helped not only to heal herself, but her marriage and family. Listen to how Shirley became the powerhouse she is today and how she helps other women break free from numbness and live life on all levels.
About Shirley Solis
Shirley is the #1 Female Peak Performance Coach in the World and Proud Mom of 6, author and successful entrepreneur, who created Live Life The Experience, the most powerful personal development event for women. Shirley searched for answers in the personal development world and found that traditional methods of coaching and therapy were not made with women in mind.
Shirley developed strategies and tools that empowered her and other women to become their most powerful, beautiful and influential self. Shirley believes women are the world’s “thermostat” and as such we should be investing time in encouraging and healing women. She is committed to creating online programs and events that will radically transform women so they can become their most powerful, beautiful and influential self. She has worked with thousands of women, men and families with incredible success rates, so much that she is called the “Miracle Woman.”
About Live Life The Experience:
Live Life The Experience is the #1 Personal Development Event for Women!
Live Life The Experience is the most advanced and transformational event that has ever been created for women. It uses advanced neurological techniques and exercises, submerging your mind and your senses to help you discover what it means to be powerfully feminine!
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