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Cory Murphy is an award-winning scholar and world traveler. He’s also a former heroin addict. Born and raised in Pennsylvania, he relocated at the age of 20 to start a new life drug-free. Since then, he has studied abroad on numerous occasions, learned multiple languages, and graduated at the top of his class from the University of Cincinnati’s Carl H. Lindner College of Business.

Cory now works in management at one of the largest corporations in the world. In his free time, he shares his story in hopes of inspiring others who have been affected by addiction, both directly through actual usage and indirectly through dealing with a friend or family member that has struggled with drug abuse.

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Since he got clean from Heroine Cory put together on a blog what he calls the Murphy Method. Here are a few suggestions from Cory.

For many years, I’ve looked back on my life and reflected on what I did differently from most other addicts to not only get clean, but to have a recovery in such stark contract with that of my friends. I’ll certainly delve into this method throughout a series of blog posts, and eventually a book, but in the meantime I can offer a brief summary.

Run

Do whatever it takes to get out. Just go. Right now.

My first observation was that successful recovery efforts began when a drastic decision was made. It seems to me like many addicts sit on the fence for too long about what exactly to do or wait to make a decision. Recently, my dear friend Sarah passed away from an overdose and on her Facebook wall another one of her close friends posted about how the two of them had been planning to move to Florida to start over a new life. They didn’t make it. They didn’t make it because they didn’t act fast. There just isn’t time- when you’re gripped by addiction you need to go away, and go right now. How far away? I would recommend having at least an entire state or two between you and your home state, but the further away you go, the better.

Permanently Relocate

Just in case you thought Step 1 was only a temporary solution before you came back home and hangout with all of your old friends again. Nay. The fact of the matter is that as soon as you start using hard drugs, you’ve lost. You’ve lost at life to be specific. And with complete failure, one must start anew. There is no going back, ever. This is the most crucial step in all of my thinking.

“Relocation” doesn’t include just moving to a new city or state by the way. You’ve got to relocate within society as well. You’re currently a degenerate, yes, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to stay this way. You’re going to get back to school and get a good job. Don’t bother with small, unranked schools or for-profit universities. Get in to the biggest and best school that you can and if you can’t afford it (you can) then file a Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA.gov) and get the money you need to head on off to college. Meet with career counselors there, determine what you’ve always wanted to do in life, but make sure it’s something that pays. You’ll thank me later.

Don’t worry about making friends- worry about making yourself.

If you didn’t graduate high school, get a GED. If you don’t have a Bachelor’s degree, get one. If you have one, get a master’s degree. And if you have a PhD, get some certifications. Your mind has been weak for some time- it’s time to get it strong again.

And if you can, relocate socially in terms of the crowd you hang out with. It can be quite entertaining actually. You need to completely erase the person you were before. That project clearly failed as that person ended up an addict. I can’t even begin to tell you how funny it was to me a metalhead hanging out with preppy kids. To have grown up an “uneducated redneck” as my (Argentinean roommate used to call me) and later turn into Mr. International surrounded by all foreign exchange students as my closest comrades. I always felt like some sort of undercover agent trying to blend in, but eventually you realize we all have more in common than we do different. The ability to be friends with anyone will take you very far in life.

Note for the addict on living in a new city: Stay the hell out of the bad areas in town. You know exactly what I mean and exactly what I’m talking about. When you move you go back to only playing in the nicer parts of town. You have no business as a former addict walking around or living in neighborhoods where drug dealers are present. This is common sense to a normal human being when they can help it. When one first relocates, it’s best to stay isolated for as long as possible. Don’t ever feel lonely- you’re the coolest friend you’ll ever have. Take this time to really get to know yourself a bit.

Cut the sandbags out of your life

You need to cut contact from every single person who does drugs or upsets you in any way.
Addicts are surrounded by people they hold dear to them for one reason or another. We feel like we owe them our friendship/loyalty for a variety of reasons. All are false. Some people may get upset by this way of thinking, but the bottom line is this: if your friends really care about you, they’ll let you go do what you need to do to get better. And there’s not much more to it than that.

I was amazed by how many of my “best friends” still maintained contact with me after I got sober. I’ll give you a hint- it’s less than one. These people like you because you do drugs. If drugs are required for their friendship, then you can’t keep them around and be sober at the same time. They won’t allow it.

Don’t let them fool you- they’ll eventually pressure you to relapse, either directly or indirectly, or they’ll find other friends who they don’t find “boring”, etc.

Cut contact. When you’re doing better years down the road you can always reconnect. Chances are, however, that you’ll realize you won’t want to.

Be free

The most important part of overcoming addiction, is realizing that there is an end to the road. Eventually, you will have been sober for a few years and will have become a better person. You need to move on with your life. Find love, travel, eat great food, whatever makes humans happy in general. There is no need to dwell on your past. When it’s done, it’s done. Knowing what you overcame builds up your confidence to overcome anything.

Join us now as Cory takes us through his battle with Drugs and Alcohol and his inspiring journey into recovery.  You don’t want to miss this episode!

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Disclaimer – The opinions shared on this show reflect those of the individual speaker and not of any 12 step fellowship as a whole and though we discuss 12 step recovery and the impact it has had in our lives we do not promote or endorse any 12 step anonymous program.