Is it possible to approach life without fear?
Sue Curr is a motivational speaker, life coach, and author. She helps people achieve their full potential and instill in them the confidence to live life the way they want.
It’s hard to believe that 5 years ago, Sue was at death’s door. Her organs were failing from a 5-bottle-of-Chardonnay-a-day drinking habit. By shear strength and resolve, she made it out alive. Now Sue doesn’t waste a minute of her life.
Fear less live more is her motto. At the age of 57, Sue eliminated her remaining fear of heights by skydiving. She now knows there is no limit to what she can do.
Sue’s story is dark one, laced with humor as she tells us how she went from lying in a hospital bed to flying high on life!
CLEAN DATE: September 26th, 2012
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The first thing Sue does each morning without fail is to give thanks that she is still here, well, alive, happy and whole. Regardless of how good or bad the previous day has been, Sue reminds herself that each day is a new start and she faces it renewed and full of hope.
Sue likes to wake up an hour before everyone else in her busy household. She begins by spending 20 minutes reading personal development books. She often listens to the Zen channel on you tube, which features mindfulness meditation tracks that get her into the zone. Her routine varies and she’ll collate her day in a way that makes sense to her, including a little bit of little bit of time for herself.
Part of what was missing in my life is the little bit of day to feed ourselves, to feed and nourish our own souls.
Sue tried Alcoholics Anonymous in early recovery, but it wasn’t a good fit for her. She attributes this to her not being ready at the time. However, Sue keeps a sobriety coin in her pocket with the mantra of AA on it as her touchstone.
I try to stick to the principles.
Sue’s recovery involves being a member of several online communities, including SHAIR and Team Sober UK. Since she is a spontaneous person, she enjoys the peer support without the rigors or structure of a program.
Sue doesn’t have a formal religion. On days when she struggles, Sue feels the need to be close to nature. Getting removed from civilization, near the sea or ocean is when she feels most connected spiritually.
I need to be able to ground myself in nature. We have so much to learn from the things that were here long before us.
Sue grew up in the 60s and remembers her paternal grandmother telling anyone who would listen that Sue was a melancholy child. She always seemed quite sad. As she grew up, she became what the world wanted her to be. She was a people pleaser because she feared rejection. She said yes when she needed to say no. She didn’t know who she truly was.
Seeking relief from her mental unease brought her to her first dalliance with prescription drugs at the age of 18. She saw a doctor who wrote her a script for Diazepam. He told her to take two twice a day. She was happy. Of course, she was. She was stoned.
She felt better and thought she could just stop taking them. Her doctor didn’t tell her there would be withdrawals. This triggered a mutual lack of trust in medics and a cycle of believing she could get better on her own. Nothing came close to two diazepam twice a day. Alcohol became the next best thing.
From then on she was on a rollercoaster. The alcohol was beginning to take its toll on her body. She was 6 1/2 stone (about 91 pounds) heavier than she is today. She was on 16 different pills for self-induced health problems. She had no idea she was dying the day she was forced to go to the hospital. Doctors told her if she hadn’t gone, she would have been dead in 24 hours.
While in the hospital, she finally looked at her daughter in the eyes and saw a mix of emotion. There was fear, anger, hatred, but most of all, there was love. In that moment, Sue realized how selfish she had been. Her daughter became her reason to live. 6 weeks later, Sue was released as a different person.
I very much consider myself a work in progress.
Sue hopes her story instills the premise that we are all human. We all have good and bad days. We’re not perfect. We often lead ego-driven lifestyles, and in the pursuit of the next thing we thing we should do, be, or have, we forget to take care of ourselves. This is when we’re in danger of losing the meaning of our lives and succumbing to fear.
You can only be to other people what you are to yourself.
Sue is still must deal with the aftermath of her addiction. She has stage 3 kidney disease and cirrhosis of the liver. She deliberately refuses to hear her prognosis. Now, this moment is her life and she focuses on living each day to the fullest and chasing new experiences without fear.
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