On today’s episode of The SHAIR Podcast we have Tara Magalski. Tara is a certified holistic health counselor, wellness expert, motivational speaker, author, mental health activist and founder of Divine Lifestyles. Divine Lifestyles is a multi-media healthy lifestyles brand that creates positive, conscious content, creates workshops, transformational programming and retreats to educate, inspire and transform. Through her work, Tara leads others towards happier, healthier, purpose-driven lives.
Tara is also the daughter of two parents who both battled with addiction. Her father is still struggling with a crack addiction and her mother died of an accidental prescription drug intoxication when Tara was 27 years old. Her story is an inspiration to any and all children who have grown up in a dysfunctional household and despite facing these odds is a testament that you too can completely transform your life. Listen now!
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Here are Tara’s SHAIR Podcast interview highlights and suggestions for the Newcomer:
Tell us about how your life is today, your hobbies, exercise. Take us into your normal daily routine and tell us about Divine Lifestyles.
Tara: I try and stick to a very similar consistent daily routine which includes getting up, prayer, meditation, eating healthy, first thing in the morning starting my engine off right. I love to read so reading and writing if I can get that n and exercising which is major, major, major for me. That is how I stay happy, healthy and balance. To exert energy and to definitely raise some serotonin levels through exercise.
Omar: Okay well, you sound very energetic. Whatever you’re doing, it’s working.
Tara: It’s funny, I was just shooting a video for today, my self-cure Sunday series. I had danced today which makes me so happy. I try and dance 3 days a week. I just came from there so you got me high right now.
Omar: Oh, I love it.
Tara: Natural high.
Omar: So tell us a little bit about your podcast.
Tara: My podcast is called Divine Lifestyles with Tara Magalski. We talk about faith, nutrition, leadership, passion, purpose, healing, and transformation. I started out just wanting to share stories of healing and transformation. People’s personal struggles leading them to triumphs. As I’ve been shooting, the conversations just gotten a bit more diverse which is great. We’re covering some great women’s empowerment issues which is our leadership section. The common theme with every interview is a story of great triumph. Even if I’m interviewing and entrepreneur … I just interviewed a girl who just took 3 companies public. She lived in her car and it wasn’t always rosy. I love to cover those feel good stories.
Omar: Those are the stories I love the most. Which is, as many of our cases, as far as recovering addicts go, so many of them started out sleeping in their cars.
Tara: Exactly. Everybody has a story so it’s not always what it looks on the outside. I love to share those truths.
Omar: I love it. So real quick then, how do you personally maintain you spiritual condition, your conscious contact with a higher power?
Tara: I do that through consistently praying. Pray every day. I do gratitude exercises, usually before I go to sleep. Reading the word. Reading great books. I am involved in a church community. I’ll be going there this evening. I really like to get myself involved with a very positive community. One last thing I want to share about that, I have this thing that my boyfriend created. We created it together but he printed them out so beautifully and laminated them for me. They are a personal code of conduct. Every day, I read my personal code of conduct and I try to live by those principles. It’s a good gauge to keep me in alignment.
Omar: It sounds very similar to when we get into recovery, there’s these spiritual principles, these values that we adopt. For us to be able to make that radical change from the behaviors that we had that always led us into drug and alcohol abuse. It was those new values and principles that we held ourselves to that started to lead us towards a much more spiritual and much more enlightened way of being which ultimately shifted our behavior. Is that similar to what you’re practicing?
Tara: Yeah, absolutely.
Omar: We’re in alignment there, I can see that. I just want to see if I could get you to go back to that moment. You were suicidal, all this stuff was going on around you, you were really underweight. For many of us, there’s that point in our lives where we go, “I’m either going to reach across and grab the 9 millimeter that’s in my dresser drawer and blow my brains out or I’m going to get to that meeting that somebody suggested I go to.” It was one of my white light, aha moments. What was that moment like.
Can you tell us exactly when the light bulb went on and you knew that if you didn’t make a right, you were going to make a hard left?
Tara: Well, I would say … I can’t remember, I have 2 moments. A little moment then a bigger moment. I can’t remember if it was in the same day or if it was in the same week. I was walking across the street one day and I was so negative and so low that I just walked across the start without looking both ways. I thought … This is where my head was at, “If I get hit, it was meant to be.” I live in New York City. It’s probably a good chance that I’ll get hit. I didn’t but that’s what I thought. “I’m not going to look both ways.” Meanwhile there’s buses, there’s everything. Bike people on bikes, cars and other people walking and just thought, “Well I’m just going to cross without looking. That’s when I realized “Ooh, this is pretty bad.” Then I can’t remember if it was the same day or night or week. I was very, very low and I was very down.
I remember I was on the floor of my New York City apartment and I was crying and I was just like, “Oh, my God I just can’t take this pain.” The hole that I felt inside me didn’t feel like one person could bear that much pain. I just didn’t think that … I said, “I’m not even old enough to have this much pain. What is this? It’s like this never ending hole of darkness that I feel retching my soul.”
I was crying to God, universe, anything. I was just like, “Listen, I need some help and I need it quick because …” At that point I didn’t even think I’d make it through the night. I didn’t know what was going to happen but I was on the floor just like, “I’m not going to make it through the night.” I didn’t have a plan or anything. I didn’t have a plan that I was like, going to take pills or do this. I was just so reckless already. I just knew that okay … I was just screaming out, “God, universe, whoever you are, I don’t even care I just need your help. I need it right now.
I was crying, I was on the floor and a few minutes later, I felt this warm, peaceful sensation around me. I didn’t feel so much pain anymore. It was like the pain had been lifted. I was like, “Whoa, what is that? My gosh, is that literally the grace of God? What is that? Is that an angel? Is that my mom?” I didn’t know what was happening but it was really an out of body, spiritual experience. I said, “Okay well whatever this is, let me keep pressing into this.” I just prayed and prayed and prayed. I was raised Catholic and I wasn’t Catholic anymore so what I needed to do was to go over and … “Let me read my Bible or let me call someone that has a church and tell them what I’ve been feeling.”
So I did. I read my Bible and I felt better and then I made a phone call to a friend of mine who was involved with the church. I said, “I really think I need to do something more than I’m doing. I’m in therapy.” I was getting hypnotized at the time. “Nothing is working and I’m really scared.” He said, “Sure. We’d love to have you.” I started getting more involved with a community that I trusted. Slowly but surely, things just go better.
Omar: Do you have a favorite book that you would recommend to our listeners?
Tara: Wow, okay. “Man’s Search for Meaning,” by Victor Frankl. Amazing book. “The Alchemist,” another great book. The Bible. It’s another great book, the big book. I have a list somewhere on my computer of my favorite books. I can send it over and you can leave it in your show notes.
Omar: We’ll put those in there. Pablo Coelho’s one of my favorites. “The Alchemist,” I’ve read that probably 4 times. Victor Franco’s book is so powerful.
Tara: It’s a classic. Every human being needs to read it.
Omar: If you feel a remote lack of gratitude in your life, read that book. It will change.
Tara: Another one I just want to plug really quickly. It’s actually my friend’s book, it changed my life. It’s called “The Miracle Morning.”
Omar: Hal Elrod.
Tara: Hal! Hal’s my buddy. I love his book and I live by his principles. I live by “The Miracle Morning.”
Omar: I’m doing it myself.
Tara: Awesome! I love that you know Hal!
Omar: I thought about interviewing him. He certainly has one hell of a recovery story.
Tara: I interviewed him, he’s on my podcast.
Omar: I’m listening to it.
Tara: He’s a special, special man. That’s an amazing book as well.
Omar: So much information, guys. So Tara, tell us, what is the best suggestion you’ve ever received?
Tara: Let go, let God. Really, something that I really like to live by, and I’m going to say it in my terms. It is a scripture and that is really like, not trusting myself or leaning on my own understanding of things. I think that when we do that as humans, we can’t help the human condition and our egos. To lean, not to my own understanding but to put my faith in God, in something higher and outside of myself. Once I put my focus on the will, not of the will of myself, the will of what I’m here to do, what I’m called to do, I believe that my paths become clearer, more straight, more honest and more authentic. That was something that I learned from my spiritual mentor. It’s something that I’ve tried to make part of my code of conduct.
Omar: Perfect. Let God guide you through it. Just turn it over, and if you could give our listeners one suggestion, what would you give them?
Tara: What type of suggestion?
Omar: Any kind of a suggestion. We’re always looking to better our lives. What would you tell someone that you’re coaching or you’re working with? What’s one of your most favorite suggestions you’d like to give?
Tara: There are limitless possibilities. Our minds create these limited belief systems. What you can really step out into faith and realize you could live beyond your wildest dreams and anything is possible, then you’re onto something. I want to tell people who are listening, dreams do come true. You can have it all. You can do whatever it is that you set your mind to. No matter where you were born, where you live, what hand you were dealt, anything is possible.
SUGGESTION’S FOR THE NEWCOMER!
“No matter where you were born, where you live, what hand you were dealt, anything is possible.”
Omar: Oh, man. That’s absolutely beautiful and 100% true. All right, Tara. Please tell us, all the listeners how they can find you, how you can get ahold of you, your website, whatever information you want to tell them so they can reach out to you.
Tara: You can go to my website which is taramacgalski.com, I also have a site divinelifestyles.com. I also have a podcast and that is Divine Lifestyles with Tara Magalski. You can just go to my site and anyone can just reach out to me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org. I love to hear from people in the community so you can feel free to reach out to me directly.
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Thanks again for your SHAIR, Tara!
See you then!
Disclaimer – The opinions shared on this show reflect those of the individual speaker and not of any 12 step fellowship as a whole and though we discuss 12 step recovery and the impact it has had in our lives we do not promote or endorse any 12 step anonymous program.